Regaining Control: When Love Becomes a Prison

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Loving Healing Press, 2007 M01 1 - 120 pages
Only 1% of the world's assets are held in the name of women. 70% of people in abject povertyliving on less than $1 per dayare women. Over half the women of this generation do not themselves receive, from either employment or the state, enough to 'get by'.

These shocking statistics call to our attention the importance of financial independence among women. Financial dependence, though, is just the tip of the proverbial iceberg. Dependence can also be noted in Validation and Self Esteem; Mobility and Daily Care; and Emotional Support and A Shield from the World.

Loving, caring, and well meaning spouses, families, and caregivers can unwittingly gnaw away at self confidence and self esteem until a person is trapped in an unhealthy situation.

Are you at risk?
Would you be financially secure without your spouse's income? Do you find it hard to say "No"? Do you feel unlovable or ugly? Have you given up on your dreams? Are you truly unhappy with your life?

If so, there is hope! It is possible to regain your self esteem, rebuild your self confidence, and become independent once more.

Independence is a skill, an attitude, and a lifestyle that anyone can achieve.

Praise for Tami Brady:

"The main point I saw in this work, and one I thought was outstanding, is that we are all individuals, unique and that one set formula may not work for everyone. I believe that is what makes her work different than other self-help books." -Shirley Johnson, Midwest Book Review

"I found myself submersed in this book, discovering it a true source of encouragement, that however overwhelming life becomes, we should stay aware of what we want, never forgetting where we come from or what our dreams are." -Tracy Jane-Newton, An Alternative View

"If you have been thinking there must be more to life than what you have; or you find you tend to say one thing in public, whilst being of an-other opinion in private, then this book may be for you." -Sue Phillips, Spiralthreads Reviews


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Independence means different things to different people. Tami Brady, the Author of Regaining Control: When Love Becomes A Prison, has written an excellent book that speaks to all women, regardless of their personal situation and views on independence.
It's a sad fact of life that many women will live at least part of their lives in poverty, or at the very least, have a tough time making ends meet, often while attempting to raise their children without a spouse or helpmate. Oftentimes through no fault of their own, they will be left in less than ideal circumstances. Reading this book and following the steps and guidelines can help you move beyond your current circumstances.
Written in an upbeat, easy to understand style, Regaining Control helps lead you through the questions you need to ask yourself to plan for your future well-being. Touching on many types of problems, personality issues and lifestyle situations, the author shows that change is possible, and lays out in great detail how to succeed to meet your needs. Any reader will find the checklists, questionnaires and forms to be useful. The book will help you find what's truly important to you, and guide you through the process of setting goals and breaking them down, turning them into steps that are easier to reach, and less overwhelming than looking at the big picture without a gameplan.
My daughter works with abused women in an emergency shelter. When she saw this book, she was excited and impressed to have access to an easily understood, easy to follow manual that she could recommend to her clients. That speaks volumes, in my opionion, about the usefullness of this book.


Are You Independent? Introduction
Underlying Philosophy of this Book
My Hope
Dependence vs Independence About Dependence and Independence
Myths about Dependence and Independence
SelfReliance Explained
What Is SelfReliance? Exploring your SelfReliance Issues
A Perfect World
Determining Your Goals
Assessing Your Resources
Succeeding at Your Goals Steps for Success
Choosing Your Goal
Goal Setting
Goal Setting Timeline
Realizing Your Goals and Beyond
Additional Resources Emergency Contacts

Introductory Explorations
Furthering Your Investigations
Finding Your Independence Quotient Analyzing Your Questionnaire Results
Interpreting Your Results
Your Opinion Counts
Summarizing Your Results
Defining Your Goals Deciding What You Need
Priorities List
Domestic Violence Support
Elder Abuse Support
About the Author

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